Constant Work

It doesn't matter what kind of relationship you have, a friendship, parent/child, boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, they all require constant work. I was reminded (yet again) tonight why. Each person is different, and men and women operate very differently. One person may think that everything is fine, but the other may not. So you work at it, and you try to make sure that each person is happy in the relationship. Now that may hold true for romantic relationships more than others, but it can be applied to them all. Communication is the key to any healthy relationship, and it always becomes very clear when something is not communicated correctly.

The smallest thing can set a person off or defuse a situation. Having watched my parents sit down at least once a month for years and combine their calendars has given me an appreciation for making the time to let your partner know what is going on in your life. Because as much as we would like to be, people are not mind readers. It also means that you cannot assume that your partner knows what is happening with you.

There also becomes a time when your partner should become the first person who is told about things. The first phone call is to him/her, or at least the second after a parent. Friends become secondary on the need-to-know list and not the first to know. In this day and age it only takes a few seconds to send a message by texting, so keeping people informed is easier now than it has ever been. It all comes down to making the effort, or constantly working on your relationship. If the work is not put in, then it shows in the result. Relationships take constant work no matter what stage you are in, and the bulk of that work resides in communication.

Life

So in my last post I said I was interviewing to be a youth director, but I did not get that job. And in a way I was relieved. That may sound weird, but it's true. I don't have to be the role model for teenagers who need someone way more better at that than I am. So no job at a church (just yet) but today I go to find out what classroom I will be in full time at a pre-school. And I'm still not dressed (even though I have to be in there in 45min) and I'm writing on here.

It is hard to for me to get excited about anything these days. So while I should be over the moon about this new job, all I can think about is what job I could have next or what big change life could hold. I am finding all the things that are wrong about this job and not everything that is good about it. Maybe it has something to do unsettled feeling I still have, I don't know. But what I do know is that I need to shower and get dressed so I can go seal the deal (so to speak) on this new job, and then go to Talbots for one of my last days there, hopefully.